It doesn’t make sense, really. Somehow, beneath the blood-boiling seething, you’re supposed to know how to talk to your spouse about resentment. That’s right. about the resentment in your marriage, but don’t resentment or start an argument.

It’s a tall order when you think about it. You need…


You never question it when you feel it. When happiness lifts your spirits like a kite on a Mary Poppins breezy day, you run with it…sometimes down the aisle. But what about the flip side of that? What happens when you’re unhappy in marriage…

Happiness is…


Getting over an affair can be as difficult for the partner who cheated as it is for the one who was betrayed. And, whether you’re the one seeking or the one bestowing, forgiveness after infidelity is the coveted key to moving forward.

If you are guilty of straying from your…


One of the best things about marriage is that you can be comfortable “being yourself.” One of the worst things about marriage is that you can be comfortable “being yourself.” And if that irony elicits a knowing chuckle, you’re not alone. Perhaps, in all that “comfort,” you have forgotten how…


The scourge of infidelity can feel like a death blow — to your heart, to your marriage, to your family. And yet, you may be clinging to every breath of hope that you can survive it. …


Marriage, in its ideal state, is that exclusive union whose intimacy has the power to heal age-old wounds and save your faith in love. But what happens when that link to hope itself needs hope? …


Rome wasn’t built in a day. Relationships aren’t built on a kiss. And marriages don’t fall apart over one argument. So what are the chances that one weekend marriage retreat can change the course of your relationship, let alone save it?

The math might surprise you.

If hindsight in marriage is 20/20 like most things in life, then most couples would admit that better preparation would have been helpful.

As a matter of…


If cheating spouses knew all that goes into surviving the guilt of infidelity, they would probably reconsider their straying.

Betrayal is undeniably devastating to the unsuspecting spouse. But it also wounds and scars the one who cheats.

Infidelity means different things to different people. There’s “the obvious,” of course. But there are also the various shades of gray between it and completely transparent faithfulness.

What matters is how you and your spouse define infidelity. …


You wouldn’t think twice about getting extra training to make you better at your job. Some things you just have to do when you have priorities. But what are the chances you would attend a couples marriage retreat to make you better at your marriage?

Again, priorities.

If you’ve never…


Anger is a difficult bedfellow, both in oneself and in one’s closest relationships. And nowhere is it more potent than in a marriage. Knowing how to communicate with your angry spouse, let alone without making things worse, can be frustrating and even frightening.

Anger is a natural emotion. We all experience it and know the adrenaline rush that acts like armor for situations of perceived threat.

As offensive and off-putting as anger can…

Mary Ellen Goggin

Relationship Guide & Mediator. Sanity Facilitator. Author, Educator, Lawyer. I help people get clarity about their relationships. www.freeandconnected.com

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store